Mostly asked question “what is the exact reason for breakup?”

There is no exact reason to why people are breaking up or losing ties. It just happens.No one is to be blamed or cursed.
For her,everything looks like a “fairy tale” that it becomes impossible for her to believe because of so many failed relationships she had dealt with & For him “she is the one I was looking for” until the day he starts feeling like a trash and all his efforts go in vain,it feels worthless.

Not because we don’t have our worth but because we look for our worth in someone else.
Two people starts communicating & everything seems merry & pretty much interested.They make time for each other not because they have a lot of time but because they feel the energy,the aura of one another.
We connect “unknowingly”
We connect because we feel the need to connect.
It could be morals, smiles, gestures, hearts & pretty minds.
It could be an “ex” attached.
and you somehow click to someone because you find an ex in your “present” it could be their face, their smile or behaviour.
Now the point is,
(You don’t accept your present as they are but you still run the show until it works out)

People will come into your life with different energies and acceptance to it is important.
Each people will make a difference.
Just as we flip the coin, both sides are different, isn’t it? So is our life & people around us.

We vibe with each person on a different level everyday and because of this our mindset & lifestyle changes and nothing remains constant. We let people overpower us and our notions that we start relating it with our relationship and we compare and complain about it rather than talking and solving it out.We find “silence” to be the best answer but what stays inside us is “fear,hurt,anger,ego, depression,complaints, etc” and how we pretend outside is “nothing happened, everything is fine, all good, it’s not about you” and all this brings a barrier and we distance ourselves day by day. Tell me if this is how you communicated during the start? Or was there just “smiles, care, laughter & honesty”
Years of relationships breaks not because they were not loved enough or taken care of but because they are following the trend enough.

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Do it anyway as many times as you need to.

She didn’t received calls,
They noted as being ignored.
She didn’t talk for a while,
They noted once again as being ignored.
She kept them posted all over media,
They noted as being too busy & unexpected.

Now you see how easily you’re judged and somehow your friendships looks unhealthy because they are the support you need even if you disappear.

You disappear to feel yourself again,
You disappear when life feels like an upside down.
You disappear because you want to gain more power and confidence.
You disappear to look forward again.
You disappear to come out of those lonely nights and emptiness.
You disappear because you don’t want to feel those feelings again.
You disappear because you’re too anxious to give it an ear.
You disappear because you need some silence.
You disappear because nothing feels right.
You disappear to sleep and rest.
You disappear when life feels like a roller coaster ride.
You disappear to set up your mind and pause for a while,

to reset, refocus and restart even if there are no hands to hold on after you come out of your disappearance and less anxious nights.

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What if ? I never saw my last would be this.

I know I shouldn’t be saying this but what if this is the last post I share or the last stories I make.
What if,
I am all over instagram yet I am nowhere on social media.
What if,
We just met somewhere on road or in a house and you last saw me few minutes ago,
Or if I just made an instagram/whatsapp stories?
What if,
My last seen says “5 minutes ago”
And you never see me again.
or be able to share a meme, and text me to communicate.
What if,
My profile is restricted and you wanna watch me last to recall it all?
What if,
You stalk me now and mourn it all.
You read my caption, you read my face, you watch those smiles vanishing each day and you feel it all to remember it on a “memorial day”.
What if,
I am just in the memories and you sigh with a heavy heart, with all those goodness you see in me now.
What if,
One day you hear a news about my death,
And you coming running to me,
Will I be able to hear? Will I be able to talk? Will I be able to greet or hug?
Will I be able to just sit and talk to you?
Will I be able to share a part of me?
Will I be able to let you overcome your past experiences or the regret/guilt that you’re in right now, when I am no more?
And you wanna meet me now, hold my hand and keep it all.
What if,
There were silence in our relationships before yet you wanna scream it all,
You cry your heart out but no one to hold on.
You wanna write paragraphs on me,
You wanna share those beautiful memories captured which you once burned or kept it drafted and now you find it all,you open up your gallery like you open up your heart.
Yet I am no where to read or feel,
no where a part of your life.
What if?
We know in reality it’s going to end, wouldn’t we live a better life, say?
And.. and..
What if,
We have a good life full of memories and an uncertainty creeps in and suddenly life surprises you upside down,

And you hear of someone, GONE.

What if,
I don’t wake up and there is no tomorrow written for me.
What if,
You won’t ever see that beautiful aura, smiles & laughters,
and there is no more phrases to read.

P.S : “Talk your heart out” because “NOW” is the only time left and LIFE, you see is so unpredictable so why not “Live before you Leave”

Remember that,

DEATH leaves a heartache no one can heal,
LOVE leaves a memory no one can steal.

Make it a beautiful one!

If you’re a text person while there is a mess.

– Yes. You read that right. 

People find communicating via messages is easy when there is a certain mess/misunderstanding/negativism related to opposite person or maybe our emotions/expectations makes it worse day by day and we get hurt easily and all that brings us a big differences.
It’s all in the mind that eats up your love and kills a long-lasting relationships.

I repeat.
Yes communication is the easiest way.
You talk your heart out over a message freely, you share whatever you feel like and the next day you’re not even the same person like before?
Yes. *Sigh*
I wonder than what else do you seek? What makes you hurt? What makes you sort and communicate?
Well, was that conversation even real where you spoke your heart out and you’re not the same anymore, and everything isn’t even normal like it used to be? No matter if everything is sorted and cool.

“Who are you?”
“Are you for real?”

Don’t. Don’t tell me it matters.
I ain’t here to entertain your pretty lies and gel up because everything should be according to your convenience because there is a certain disrespect you can’t help rather to just let go.

Expectations is ok.
Hurt , anger , miscommunication is ok.
Everything is ok when it comes to a bond you cherish after all we are humans, “we make mistakes, mistakes makes us.”
Right there, you talk , you clear, you keep it for real. All that strings untied and hearts wide open.

You think clearing over a message, asking multiple times like what has happened, keeping it normal makes you feel like you put all the effort regardless of the opposite one , and everything is all good ? Yet you’re tired. Ofcourse you’re.

You communicate just to make it easy when in need, whereas in person you don’t even feel like speaking.

You’re yet to explode.
You’re yet to talk.
You’re yet to put back all the pieces together.

Tell me if it’s a lie,
when I say,
You’re yet to meet the old ‘US’ in person.

P.S :
Communication looks easy.
But it’s not important what you reciprocate is what people understand.
And there you’re hurt/fired once again.

Love you see.

I don’t know what love is. I don’t really know how it feels or it is supposed to be felt. I have felt the feeling of being heard, seen, supported and for me maybe that’s how love should be in these small little things and so much more as life brings further.

It’s during those times of schooling when I had this habit of writing and my friends going through such love feels and separation. That’s when I became hard on love, my thought process changed because of the pain my friends were feeling. No I ain’t comparing myself with them. But the feeling of love is so disillusioned. My friends ran towards me to share them all and listen to them for once, they cried, they weeped. Yes the ones who were smiling from within during those times of togetherness. This made me question?

What if ? All these love brings the same.

Yes. I had a crush. Everybody has. But I felt it temporary and with time it got all vanished. Note : I never confessed maybe out of fear or I never saw myself as falling in love. Well that was just crush.

Time passed. Ended up schooling. Had good memories and hardships of friends leaving. But I was involved and happy about one thing that was someone who was junior to me. When I was in 12, he was in 11, that’s when we interacted with each other through our mutual friends. I don’t exactly remember who started the conversation. All I knew, he was someone so blissful and we had something in common to share and in couple of months we became close friends. I left my schooling , we were unhappy but one has to get ahead in life. I saw him as a family. I believed him. Everything was merry. People doubted us , what if there is something going on , they actually wanted us to be together but for us, we called each other as best friends. We were very chill about all these that even if people talked about it we would laugh it out. Well, we never talked seriously about it.

As I said, I never talked about love or loving. Because I don’t really know this feeling. With time I have been hard on love. A little fearful. I always looked for someone who would confess me right in front of me. Not because I don’t love them , reject them or would leave them silently but because I don’t know. I really don’t know that’s why I seek for some silence where I might share it all. But for now I don’t really know what is it or how it feels. Well writing this right here feels like I’m crippled.

Coming back to my bestfriend,

We were our go-to person. We had our promises & daily conversations. I used to wait for him as he would tell his everyday stories at school. What happened with him, how he felt, everything. That’s a really good thing about bond to share to communicate. Right?

We met often. With him I had no fear about anything or about people seeing us around. I have almost met him in front of my home. I parents doubted too hahahah! *Laughing*

But we never confessed anything even if it was more than best friendship. As I said, I don’t know how it feels even if I felt. For me that “relation” is important “togetherness” is everything. So I seek for someone to confess. But what if he leaves one day? Things that happens with all?

He left for his further studies, to cut it short , after a year, he changed with time. The communication wasn’t still. He wanted to share so many things but left with things unsaid. Yes. He left one day. He told me things that I would never believe. He left me destructed. He saw me crying. I tried to talk to him. I begged for him to speak his mind. But nothing calmed him, he was stuck in his decision of leaving. I cried in front of his guy bestfriend. That’s when I felt helpless. That’s when I cried for days? months? years?

Well that’s when I realised I loved him but I was too late to say him. Still I never confessed him till date. Because I don’t know what was it after all he was also a son of my father’s friend. How would I confess? What would I say? I knew it from before that I started falling for him as he said he would leave for further studies.

I cried to myself silently on his leaving. But I never stopped him. I never said no. I wanted him to fulfill his dreams, to be one successful person. I knew there would be distance someday. But I always wanted to be there.

Anyways things changed. I have moved on. He has moved on. Everything changed between us. We are no more bestfriends. He tried to contact me quite often after all the mess over messages but all I wanted was “truth” over meeting’ which he never made or confessed. That’s alright.

Years passed. Few friends knew about it. They were always there to support me.

I was devastated. I stopped communicating with everyone. I never went close to anyone. I was on a silent mode. I never payed attention to any of mutual friends or strangers messages. People tried to ask for a meeting but I was always ready with a “no” or an excuse.

My friend told me to communicate, to try talking, for how long would you stay aloof? Not everybody is same, give them a chance. You never know who feels like a blessing. They made me understand and explained me always. But deep inside I knew what the ending might be and would feel. I was zoned out. It was hard for me to even believe in friendships. I was hurt, broken and what not? That stage of my life, I fear. But it has made me grown stronger than ever with time. I became a little more harder on love. Everybody leaves yeah no matter what the seasons or promises.

It was mid/December 2018, when I started looking for myself and changed. Slowly I helped myself. I stopped crying in front of my friends. I didn’t want to be helpless anymore or someone who would see me weak. I grew stronger. I distanced myself from thinking to fall in love or to let anyone come closer to me.

It was 2019 , when suddenly life changed upside-down. Someone came into my life. We started communicating. I don’t know how that happened we became friends, close friends. We never met each other. But he was someone who made me happy AGAIN. Because I had forgotten the feeling of happiness. But he was someone who made me feel seen, supported. Everything AGAIN was merry. We just involved into talking day and night. He became an important part of my life. It was important for us to know about each other’s day. He did everything on his part to keep me into communications & emotions. We shared one of the best times. Well I don’t know about him, but I did. Because you should have seen him with “that smile”

There was some connection between us , I felt and as my friends told it seems like he loves you, and I doubted on what was it? He never confessed but I had always been hard on love. Still I tried on my part be it less. I never wanted to feel helpless again after that stage years back.

But as said, nothing last forever. Hence he proved again. He distanced himself and left me silently. He promised to stay but that’s what everybody says? I tried talking to him, I asked him to say? But he never shared. His hurt, his silence was more important than me and our bond. So that’s when it was time to bid him goodbye without a say. But the question still remains.

Love. You see. So confusing. So gentle. Like a glass, it breaks and is never the same. I was hurt again. I was devastated. I feel alone but I never run back again because someone who said would stay will he be there still the same? Or is he seeking for the same? Alas. Sob. Sob.

Love. What is it? When I don’t even know how the first kiss feels.

Flirt. When I don’t even let anybody come close to me.

Love! Love! Love! Let it be. .

Love as I see is beyond perfection. I want us to talk not only when we are merry and you promise and cherish me a lifetime together. But when we are sad, hurt, angry, annoyed because of one that’s when we share the flaws that’s when we respect our differences and care for each other a little more. To talk it out. To communicate. That’s when we think over our own flaws and correct it gradually rather than creating walls and walking silently.

Sometimes we are not aware of our own flaws that’s when our partner comes in role to work on it together. Just like sometimes what we see or hear might not be the truth.

What togetherness is for you? What is loyalty for you? What is happiness for you? What is the truth for you? What is perfection? What is love ?

Everything seemed so merry than what are the causes?

Sharing, learning and overcoming together that’s the support everyone seeks. Right?

Than why do we lack in sharing , in communicating. Why do we feel like a burden? Like the opposite one won’t really understand? Why are you even together if you think this way? And why do you think one is happy and the other one is sad and vice versa when both shared everything in common other than social media norms.

What you see might not be the truth.

Love. Love. Love. I don’t really know how to love. Oh dear! What is love?

How do they overcome after one such feeling? Why do they appear to just disappear one day like it was NOTHING.

Oh love. I know nothing about you.

ATTENTION

Attention! Attention! Keep repeating. . How does it feel? It feels normal, good, positive or kinda little arrogant, full of attitude or a negative word? Still processing on the word “ATTENTION”

Why have we started pressurising on the word “attention” like it’s no more normal? Why have we changed the word with something negative? Why have we started relating with some unwanted relationships like “he/she is a person who is an attention seeker?” Well, I hope he/she is that person only whom you once gave so much of attention, love and care. I hope you are not misguided with the fact that you once were together and everything was normal.

Attention! Attention! I don’t know how does it feel? Until someone makes me feel like it’s a negative word. Like I’m wrong or abusing the opposite one for their own differences. I don’t know if it’s my mind that says it’s a “word” not to be said.

Attention!

Attention! I still feel the same with no intentions. I see it as a happy word. I see it like it’s absolutely normal than why the society push me towards the negatives or if it’s my own mind playing with me? Hey?

I never knew what attention really felt like. It makes me feel something new. When somebody gave me a lot of attention and everything was so merry that it raised my expectations of me being a little more attentive to the ones paying me attention with no intentions. All I had is happiness and the word “attention” felt so blissful that no negatives could touch me.

Well. Attention! Attention! The word “attention” changed it’s meaning and it never felt the same again because the person who once made me happy with all his attentions had no intentions. This way he changed it’s meaning to something called “an attention seeker”.

How could this be? When all he showered was love and blamed me for all.

“Attention” felt so good since I found it’s meaning like it’s normal, good, positive, love and later on felt all of it to feel nothing at all.

Why do people start blaming someone for the situations that one experiences?

Why do people fake when all they have is hate inside?

Why do people turn silent when all they gave was pure attention?

Why do I Still feel the word given “an attention seeker” to as “pure attention”?

Well, Why do society try to pour words and sentences of negativism to make people think what they might not actually even think for real?

And why do people post something that they know can harm people and their self-respect / self-confidence can be low by a single unpleasant act/word such as,

“Attention” to “An attention seeker”

How much will it cost someone?

When they might not even know they are seeking attention or what they do is normal for them but according to you he/she becomes “an attention seeker” to someone going through society tantrums and indirect post.

Think twice. Act wise. Let people live.

I’m back after years.

Hello WordPress Fam.

So excited to be back after years.
I remember reaching out people all over the world sharing similar vibes, emotions. I could help them heal together.

This is me Shalini Minda.

A writer of Untold Phrases that says,

“Too realistic with deep and twisted thoughts.”

I hope you remember me!

Well to begin with,

My writing journey over “social media” started when I was quite broken in the year of 2017. Well that happens with all yeah. I had a cluster of thoughts to pour out to the world not to gain sympathy or anything but to help people be aware and come out of the unknown phases that they might face in the future. That’s why when I say “deep & realistic” I mean it.

Deep because my heart feels so much that they started calling me an overthinker. Well in that case I don’t mind because what I bring to the books of readers is the “truth, ugly, pretty or whatsoever.” I look forward to people to come out of their so called “permanent bliss” because there is nothing called “permanent” and face everything beautifully. I want them to dive in deep of what can happen or is supposed to be. There is no prediction just feels and comes the realistic vibes.

Too realistic because I see it as real. I feel things for real. I feel like I have become more realistic out of the ideas that people bring forward or the heartbreaks of people and me that makes me see the world out of the box, from another point of view. They call me tough, oh maybe I’m because I have been holding it strong for too long. Well, coming to readers, it’s hard for them to accept but as soon as they face some kind of situations they come forward to go through my post. Fun fact – now they see the world “for real”.

About me : A lot has been said yet unsaid so is for all human beings. Few things remains unsaid until we die and take them along with us. Till than I shall keep sharing my vibes, feels, notions.

I am looking forward to reach out to as many people as I can so as to help them feel the feels because “You’re not alone” is all I believe in and that we all can build our network to help and share the vibes through contents and face it all together, be it anything.

Togetherness & Loyalty is something that I really believe in when it comes to building up a relationship of any kind. Remember no fights/silence lasts longer as long as you have faith and trust in your heart & mate.

I hope my comeback feels stronger.

See you until next time.

Happy Reading 🙂

Incomplete.

You don’t need a man,

Who keeps you awaited.

Who keeps you wondering.

Who keeps you around and not in your heart.

Who sleeps without letting you know.

Who ignores you when he is moody.

Who seeks for your trust but doesn’t trust you.

Who shares with you still hides things from you.

Who keeps fighting for useless communications.

Who forces you to be normal.

Who makes you feel silly when around.

Who doesn’t respect you in front of public.

Who talks more about fights than you.

Who wants you to be there yet he seeks for someone else.

Who keeps you around for no great purpose